Chapter 1: Learning To Cry

Learning To Cry

Things are not always going to go your way. Lesson 1 in grabbing life by the horns is going throughout your life being prepared to cry. There are a million instances that I could list, that would make life hard. Some of which include:

• losing a loved one
• failed relationship (of any sort)
• bad day
• physical, emotional and mental illness
• arguments
• being abused or hurt in general

There are tons more, which are way too many to list, but point made. One cannot sit through life feeling sorry for themselves, expecting to overcome a hard ship. You have to learn to go ahead and take the first step. Cry. Let it all out. Show the world that you are real. Hiding your feelings will only make living a happy life impossible. You have to be willing to let go of whatever is bothering you, and just let it ALL OUT.

Men will try to say that "real men don't cry", however, when anyone humbles themselves down for God, you will find that pride is not something that is a factor. Men can cry. Men do cry. I have seen people cry out to God in pain and hurt, when they feel burdened, or just have alot on their mind and need to express their feelings. We are ALL human. We all have a reason to cry. We are all sinners, there is no such thing as perfection. If we were all perfect, there would be nothing for God to fix. We wouldn't need his mercy. This brings me to my next point. 

Now, don't get me wrong; crying is not always a bad thing. My grandfather is a Baptist minister. Sometimes, in his sermons, he will stop what ever he is saying and just cry out to the lord. He thanks him and tells him that he loves him, praising him for his mercy and grace. We all need to take time and just enjoy life by letting ourselves experience the tears, because its a way of crossing the line from being just humans, to being humble servants of God. In life, there are all sorts of reasons to cry. 

The important thing to remember is that when we die, there will be no crying. No tears will fall from our eyes. So, its no big deal to cry. Just do it. If you feel it coming, don't fight it. You can fight the tears all you want, but it won't make you feel better.  I assure you, that if you take the time to pray, God will put stop the fire inside you. He is our comforter. The Bible says that God counts all of our tears and keeps them in a bottle. Can you believe that? Every single tear we have shed is captured.

This is an actual picture of me a few years ago.  I  took this photo for a  photography contest. I was crying because at the time (my best friend) the man I was in love with, married a girl without me even knowing that she existed. I was crushed. It took a lot of bravery to actually tell people the background of the photo itself, however, it goes to show that I got through it.

For more information, visit Psalms 56:8 and Revelations 21:4